My 45 yr old brother has been an alcoholic for MANY years, and I have always seen him through his MANY episodes of working for short periods, and then spending all his money on booze! He has had no home for last 3 yrs or more, as he stayed with my family many times. He has been through about 5-6 rehab programs, none of which have worked. He left our home to work offshore on an oil rig, working 80 hrs./week, clearing only $500/week after deductions. Since he has no home, he has to spend majority of his $$ on expensive hotels in Lafayette. He recently had good opportunity to double his salary, but instead began drinking b4 his interview, despite me and other family members pleading him NOT TO.
Now he has called me, totally out of $$, nowhere to stay, wants me to send him $$. My heart is broken, stomach in knots as I am finally trying to NOT enable him. However, I can't stop feeling bad bout him being totally w/out $ and no place to stay; wanted me to send $75 for one night. HELP!!Brother is SUPER alcoholic, need advice on how to handle his bottoming out and asking me to bail him out!?
Your brother need to get into a longer program for him to get on the road to recovery. He also needs to establish a support system other than his family/friends once he returns to society. The AA program is a great way to get this support...he has to get a sponsor who is in the program and been in his shoes and made it to a life of sobriety...its like peer counselling. Also YOU can go to meetings for AL anon...which helps those affected by someones addiction to recover and learn not to enable the person anymore(tough love). If you live in Canada, there are some great programs and places that you both can go to get the recovery you need...one is the Camillus Centre in Elliot Lake Ontario, Canada. It offers all types of excellent programs for addiction and family recovery. Alcoholism is a disease...it can be treated and controlled, and it affects not only the person drinking...but all those around them. Do not continue to fund your brothers habit...he has to finally realize his distructive habit and as hard as it seems...get out there and take care of himself. We can only ask a person to be sober...it is ultimately their choice to be, and reamin that way...we have to let them know we don't approve and can't have this in our life...that they need to take conrol of their own destiny. It is hard...go to Al anon and you will get soooo much support form others who have been there, done that. Good luck...hang in there...take one day at a time!!!!!Brother is SUPER alcoholic, need advice on how to handle his bottoming out and asking me to bail him out!?
You did the right thing. I think they call it tough love. But, as long as you and your family play into his bad habits, you are not helping him. It doesn't get any easier on the family, but he will bleed you as long as he can.
You need a stronger resolve than you have displayed in the past.
Yes, he's your brother but you are NOT his keeper.
He is manipulating you at ever twist and turn and you succumb to his demands.
Go and get professional advice yourself because it sounds like he is turning you into an emotional and physical wreck.
Better to be cruel than sorry. Just say no more to your brother. Tell him you are not going to continue bailing him out whenever he spends all his money on booze.
Good luck to you.
You are not helping him.....help is showing a person how to be a man. how to get on with your life. what is he doing with money? spending it on booze.
Just say no. He will smarten up, thank-you when he sobers up. If he doesn't then foolish you for contributing to a person's problems.
I'm really sorry you're in that position. Maybe you can give him the money for just that one night, and if he wants anymore, just let him know that you love him very much, but you can't help him anymore. Good luck.
I would say, no. Tell him you'll pay for him to check into rehab, but not for anything else. My father went into a month-long program and he stayed dry after he realized how low he'd sunk while under the influence. Your brother needs to wake up and realize what he's doing, and on the street or in jail would be a shocking enough place for him to do so.
dont give money, buy him antibuse
next time he calls you, you just say ';i'm sorry... do i know you? .... well, anyhow, i dont speak english.';
Don't bail him out. He needs to sober up and learn that he can't keeping living his life like this. He needs intervention. You are it! The best way to show him you love and care about him is to help him. He needs to seek counseling for this addiction. You go w/ him for support. Get in touch w/ a a counselor and find out through them another rehab program. There's all kinds of therapies that could even help him, but you would have to see a Psychologist for that. Which might even be better. There's always a reason and a root cause for the addiction. See about having a Psychologist see him in jail. He's not safe being on the streets b/c he could hurt someone and even himself. Talk about having him committed to an institution for awhile to see if that would help. Bottom line talk w/ a Psychologist about seeing him in jail discuss treatment and therapy options. Find out the root cause and get it reverse. Alcoholism is a learned behavior and is something is learned it can be reversed. DO NOT BAIL HIM OUT. He needs brotherly love and support along w/ intervention be just that. Next, get down on your knees and pray to the Heavenly Father himself. God can give you the strength you need to help your brother. Your brother needs to ask for the strength to conquer his addiction. Good Luck! Praying for you, brother and family.
It sounds like he's going to keep doing this as long as you keep supporting him. I mean, if he can get money from you, why should he clean up and work for it?
I know he's your brother, but this method isn't helping him. Maybe you need to put your foot down and tell him that you are not willing to support him on his downwards spiral.
Good luck. I hope he gets better soon.
leave him be cruel to be kind the shock of being in deep trouble may stop him from carrying on his behaviour it may be hard but you have to be strong, he may hate you at fisrt but will eventually thank you
You need to stop being an enabler !! He is grown and I know for a fact that there are waaayyyy cheaper motels in Lafayette for him to stay not to mention that there are shelters that he can stay in if he has not money.
You need to contact AA and go to one of their meetings so that you can learn to not feel guilty about the decisions that HE is making. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS BEHAVIOR.
My best wishes to you for this will be a tough love but you and your family will make it through and so will he.
I know it's really hard on you not to help him out but it is important NOT TO ENABLE HIM. The most difficult thing about alcoholics is that they need to hit bottom until they recover. One thing that might help you is a support group. I'm not talking about AA. See if you can find an Adult Children of Alcoholic group in your area. You can look them up on the internet or sometimes the AA meetings in your area will have information on them. It's a really good program.
The toughest thing is seeing a loved one subcomb to an addiction. DO NOT SEND MONEY! Yes, it breaks your heart, but the only way is to stop enabling him. An addict will bring everyone down with him/her. You cannot save him, an addict must want it bad enough to stop on his/her own, they must hit bottom. contact a crisis hotline and ask about information, resources on setting up a professionally mediated ';intervention'; with family and friends. The more money you send, the longer his addiction will continue.
P.S. be prepared for ';nothing you do to work';, only he can save himself. Good luck.
The problem with an alcoholic is that they are always finding people to bail them out! Don't! Let him take the consequences for whatever behavior he committed. The Criminal Justice System has services--leave him in jail!! Taking responsibility is the first step in recovery! You will become sicker than your brother if you keep bailing him out.
Well, after living the past 19 years in households with alcoholics, my father, my stepfather, and now my grandfather, I have learned a lot about the disease. As far as your brother going to rehab and it not working- It will not ever work, unless he truly wants to recover. Secondly, you cannot keep playing the role as the caretaker in your relationship. Catering to him will only make it worse. You need to let him go, as hard as it is, until he can see that he has to take care of himself on his own. Right now, he knows that there will always be someone there to save him. Hope this advice helps a little. I know exactly where you are coming from.
You can't help someone who will not help themselves. I have a relitave who is the same way. I allowed him to stay in my home in a spare room, the stipulation was that he would attend AA meetings and not drink. He got a job and did great while he was here. He has since started drinking and smoking pot again. You may want to try somthing similar, perhapse it will work for your brother.
u did the rigth thing by not giving him any money n it is good for him to have support during this time in his life
Thursday, December 31, 2009
I need advice on how to impress a girl.?
Okay theres this girl in most of my classes that i really like. I've known her for 3 years now. I liked her the first year i knew her. The second year it eventually went away but know its back again. I think she might like me back because she looks at me a lot during class and i know she likes my personality. Also she has no idea i like her. What should I do?I need advice on how to impress a girl.?
Well, her looking at you is a good thing. Girls have a hard time not looking at the guy they like. Start saying hi in the halls sometimes.....not all the time, just sometimes. Half the fun for a girl is wondering if the guy likes you so you don't want to come on too strong or desperate. See how she reacts to your saying hi. Since she is in your class, find an excuse to call her about homework or something. Just act like a friend and nothing more at this point. Take it really slow and judge her reactions. If she seems to want to talk to you then that is a good sign. If she cuts you off or turns to talk to her friends when you come up to talk......not good. If she smiles or laughs at things you say, that is good. If a girl likes you then she will stay interested until you show absolutely NO interest.... so just take it slow and see what her reactions are before you step it up.I need advice on how to impress a girl.?
funny you ask..
thats difficult to answer..
well just be yourself ... dont try to ';impress'; her .. talk to her as often as you can.. ask her out.. be nice and i think shell like you the way you are..
chances are if she likes you shes waiting for u to make the first move
and if shes not thought abt you in that sense she will once you ask her..
good luck
I suggest you keep talking with her and make sure to be super nice. Maybe even buy her a small thoughtful gift (like flowers or choclate.) Then once you guys are really good friends ask her out, i'm sure she would say yes.
listen to what she says and surprise her with it. like, if shes talking and says she loves reeses or something, buy her one. she'll appriciate that you actually listened. most guys don't.
just tell her. most girls would like guys to just tell them. Or write her a note and tell or im her but ehatever you do just tell her..thats waht girls prefer
Go up to her and ask her if she would like to do something over the weekend. Just hang out and watch a movie or go out and have some dinner. Its that simple. Dont be shy, just ask her out! GOOD LUCK!
Talk to her. tell her stuff that you are good at and what she enjoys and stuff. and you should tell her that u like her cause then she will know and stuff. maybe she actually does like you and then u 2 can be a couple!
if u r friends with any of her friends, ask them to tell her that u like her, or ask them to ask her if she likes u. trust me, i'm going thru the same thing right now. if u don't know any of her friends, just do as much as u can to get to know her, try starting conversations about recent tests or assignments, and carrying on from there. GOOD LUCK!!!:)
well if you are the mysterious type you should write her a poem or a flower. if you are a good kid take her for dinner. if you are a bad kid take her for a movie. lol.
Ask her out on a date and then ask her questions about her. Lighten the mood by cracking a few jokes. Make her laugh and smile and then the flow of conversation will get going. Make it a nice meal with nothing like fast food (Ex: McDonalds) but not too fancy either because that would make things kind of stiff. Go somewhere that will lighten the mood. She will get the idea that you like her.
dont try to impress her just be yourself if you try to be fake and impress her it will lead to a disappointment
Start talking to her little by little every other day. Then when she shows that she's a little more intersted you should ask her out on a date. Females love it when the guy is a gentleman. When you take her out get to know her, not how many siblings she has, what's her favorite color, you should already know all these answers, and girls love it when you pay attention to them and are sensitive to their needs. Just respect her and you'll get respect back. Don't try to be someone your not because us girls can spot a fake guy.
U need to go up to her talk to her and ask her out. Girls like it when u r your selve b/c most know when u r tryn to impress them. Dont cuss around her or brag about getting into fights, or drinking or things like that. bUt it just depends on the girl. She might like that. ibut most girls like guys who can b them selfs
wear nice clothes, send her flowers to her signed secret admirer
Talk to her in between classes and see where that takes you. Just remember to take it one step at a time or she might feel violated.
Well, her looking at you is a good thing. Girls have a hard time not looking at the guy they like. Start saying hi in the halls sometimes.....not all the time, just sometimes. Half the fun for a girl is wondering if the guy likes you so you don't want to come on too strong or desperate. See how she reacts to your saying hi. Since she is in your class, find an excuse to call her about homework or something. Just act like a friend and nothing more at this point. Take it really slow and judge her reactions. If she seems to want to talk to you then that is a good sign. If she cuts you off or turns to talk to her friends when you come up to talk......not good. If she smiles or laughs at things you say, that is good. If a girl likes you then she will stay interested until you show absolutely NO interest.... so just take it slow and see what her reactions are before you step it up.I need advice on how to impress a girl.?
funny you ask..
thats difficult to answer..
well just be yourself ... dont try to ';impress'; her .. talk to her as often as you can.. ask her out.. be nice and i think shell like you the way you are..
chances are if she likes you shes waiting for u to make the first move
and if shes not thought abt you in that sense she will once you ask her..
good luck
I suggest you keep talking with her and make sure to be super nice. Maybe even buy her a small thoughtful gift (like flowers or choclate.) Then once you guys are really good friends ask her out, i'm sure she would say yes.
listen to what she says and surprise her with it. like, if shes talking and says she loves reeses or something, buy her one. she'll appriciate that you actually listened. most guys don't.
just tell her. most girls would like guys to just tell them. Or write her a note and tell or im her but ehatever you do just tell her..thats waht girls prefer
Go up to her and ask her if she would like to do something over the weekend. Just hang out and watch a movie or go out and have some dinner. Its that simple. Dont be shy, just ask her out! GOOD LUCK!
Talk to her. tell her stuff that you are good at and what she enjoys and stuff. and you should tell her that u like her cause then she will know and stuff. maybe she actually does like you and then u 2 can be a couple!
if u r friends with any of her friends, ask them to tell her that u like her, or ask them to ask her if she likes u. trust me, i'm going thru the same thing right now. if u don't know any of her friends, just do as much as u can to get to know her, try starting conversations about recent tests or assignments, and carrying on from there. GOOD LUCK!!!:)
well if you are the mysterious type you should write her a poem or a flower. if you are a good kid take her for dinner. if you are a bad kid take her for a movie. lol.
Ask her out on a date and then ask her questions about her. Lighten the mood by cracking a few jokes. Make her laugh and smile and then the flow of conversation will get going. Make it a nice meal with nothing like fast food (Ex: McDonalds) but not too fancy either because that would make things kind of stiff. Go somewhere that will lighten the mood. She will get the idea that you like her.
dont try to impress her just be yourself if you try to be fake and impress her it will lead to a disappointment
Start talking to her little by little every other day. Then when she shows that she's a little more intersted you should ask her out on a date. Females love it when the guy is a gentleman. When you take her out get to know her, not how many siblings she has, what's her favorite color, you should already know all these answers, and girls love it when you pay attention to them and are sensitive to their needs. Just respect her and you'll get respect back. Don't try to be someone your not because us girls can spot a fake guy.
U need to go up to her talk to her and ask her out. Girls like it when u r your selve b/c most know when u r tryn to impress them. Dont cuss around her or brag about getting into fights, or drinking or things like that. bUt it just depends on the girl. She might like that. ibut most girls like guys who can b them selfs
wear nice clothes, send her flowers to her signed secret admirer
Talk to her in between classes and see where that takes you. Just remember to take it one step at a time or she might feel violated.
I need advice on how to break up with my gf with out hurting her.?
We've been goin out for 3.5 months. Until 2 weeks ago ive lost some feelings. She's 2.5 yrs younger then me and I took her virginity. Her mom is best friends with my mom. She acts like she's in love with me. Her myspace photo headlines hint loveI need advice on how to break up with my gf with out hurting her.?
Ain't gonna happen, you are going to hurt her no matter how you do it.
If you fear some kind of reckoning from parents or from something else you should have looked before you went in (double entendre anyone?)
My advice is to be up front and let her have it, let the cards fall where they may. Let her get to crying and grieving and hating you. And let yourself out of what looks like a sticky situation for yourself as quickly and painless as possible.(I did it again, Ha)I need advice on how to break up with my gf with out hurting her.?
Everything is going to suck a little at first... just because your mom, her mom and especially her will be involved in the whole breakup. There is honestly no way to do this easy. But the RIGHT thing to do is to be honest with her and not make something up that might sound better. 3 and 1/2 months isn't all that long, really. You should've waited for the sex, it would've lessened the pain of breakup, but that's beside the point now. Even if she thinks she loves you, you HAVE to stay true to your feelings.. it's sweet, but you'll end up having feelings of remorse for not going with your own flow.
Hate to break it to you, but there's honestly no way you're gonna get out of this without hurting her. I know I took the virginity of a girl that I wasn't even dating and I've been pretty pissed at myself ever since, so I'll try not to accuse you too much of being a ';jerk'; or whatever. You're just gonna have to tell her what's up. It's gonna be extremely hard on her, and you need to accept that right now so it's at least her reaction's not a surprise when you tell her. Maybe wait another week, and in that week don't do like anything physical at all, so that she at leasts realizes somethingi swong. It'll hurt her a lot more if she thinks your relationship is this great and wonderful thing then just out of the blue you dump her. After that week, go somewhere with her, preferrably her house, and tell her. Let her slap you and yell at you, she needs to get it out and just try to be understanding. Maybe call her the next day and if she doesn't pick up, at least you tried. Hope I helped = )
You going to hurt her either way. Since you took her virginity she is going to hurt for a while. Why are you loosing feelings????
Taking a woman's virginity is very precious to her and you took something away from her that she can't take back.
You must be honest with her.
- This is a lesson for you and her. SEX doesn't mean its going to last forever.
Explain to her that you don't feel how you did before. Then apologize for taking her virginity then leaving her (don't exactly phrase it that way though lol) Tell her that u beleive that u would better off without each other. If she doesn't agree then mabey give her a month or so and if she realizes that she is better off then that's great if not and she wants u back, then uhhh get back on Yahoo, tell your story, and let everyone else tell u what to do b/c I don't know after that. lol. sorry.
If you break up with her and she gets mad. You know shes going to tell her mom that you guys had sex and you know that mom is going to tell your mom.
My advice is just kinda bring out your bad side around her. Make her break up with you.
you're gonna hurt her no matter what. sorry but there isn't really any good way to break up with someone.
all I can say is plan out what you're gonna say first. do it in the most diplomatic way possible and try to compliment her (but not too much otherwise she will ask why you want to break up!)
good luck
If she really loves you, she will be hurt anyway you put it. I would try to say that you think of her now as a friend, but not really much more and that you would like to continue to be just her friend. Talk to her in person too when you do it.
that is gonna hurt her. well, you be honest and tell her exactly why you are breaking up with her. it is going to hurt her either way.
its gonna hurt her either way you go. all you can do is explain why and leave her alone for awhile. i hope it goes better than its sounds.
Well she is going to be hurt. But tell her the truth. There is nothing worst then been lied too.
Be the exact opposite of you and make her not like you show she does it and not you.
You used the word my and she alot. This means you still feel not only attached, but in control of her.
u can NOT break her up without hurting her, JERK
thats why you dont have sex.....sigh. jerk.
Ain't gonna happen, you are going to hurt her no matter how you do it.
If you fear some kind of reckoning from parents or from something else you should have looked before you went in (double entendre anyone?)
My advice is to be up front and let her have it, let the cards fall where they may. Let her get to crying and grieving and hating you. And let yourself out of what looks like a sticky situation for yourself as quickly and painless as possible.(I did it again, Ha)I need advice on how to break up with my gf with out hurting her.?
Everything is going to suck a little at first... just because your mom, her mom and especially her will be involved in the whole breakup. There is honestly no way to do this easy. But the RIGHT thing to do is to be honest with her and not make something up that might sound better. 3 and 1/2 months isn't all that long, really. You should've waited for the sex, it would've lessened the pain of breakup, but that's beside the point now. Even if she thinks she loves you, you HAVE to stay true to your feelings.. it's sweet, but you'll end up having feelings of remorse for not going with your own flow.
Hate to break it to you, but there's honestly no way you're gonna get out of this without hurting her. I know I took the virginity of a girl that I wasn't even dating and I've been pretty pissed at myself ever since, so I'll try not to accuse you too much of being a ';jerk'; or whatever. You're just gonna have to tell her what's up. It's gonna be extremely hard on her, and you need to accept that right now so it's at least her reaction's not a surprise when you tell her. Maybe wait another week, and in that week don't do like anything physical at all, so that she at leasts realizes somethingi swong. It'll hurt her a lot more if she thinks your relationship is this great and wonderful thing then just out of the blue you dump her. After that week, go somewhere with her, preferrably her house, and tell her. Let her slap you and yell at you, she needs to get it out and just try to be understanding. Maybe call her the next day and if she doesn't pick up, at least you tried. Hope I helped = )
You going to hurt her either way. Since you took her virginity she is going to hurt for a while. Why are you loosing feelings????
Taking a woman's virginity is very precious to her and you took something away from her that she can't take back.
You must be honest with her.
- This is a lesson for you and her. SEX doesn't mean its going to last forever.
Explain to her that you don't feel how you did before. Then apologize for taking her virginity then leaving her (don't exactly phrase it that way though lol) Tell her that u beleive that u would better off without each other. If she doesn't agree then mabey give her a month or so and if she realizes that she is better off then that's great if not and she wants u back, then uhhh get back on Yahoo, tell your story, and let everyone else tell u what to do b/c I don't know after that. lol. sorry.
If you break up with her and she gets mad. You know shes going to tell her mom that you guys had sex and you know that mom is going to tell your mom.
My advice is just kinda bring out your bad side around her. Make her break up with you.
you're gonna hurt her no matter what. sorry but there isn't really any good way to break up with someone.
all I can say is plan out what you're gonna say first. do it in the most diplomatic way possible and try to compliment her (but not too much otherwise she will ask why you want to break up!)
good luck
If she really loves you, she will be hurt anyway you put it. I would try to say that you think of her now as a friend, but not really much more and that you would like to continue to be just her friend. Talk to her in person too when you do it.
that is gonna hurt her. well, you be honest and tell her exactly why you are breaking up with her. it is going to hurt her either way.
its gonna hurt her either way you go. all you can do is explain why and leave her alone for awhile. i hope it goes better than its sounds.
Well she is going to be hurt. But tell her the truth. There is nothing worst then been lied too.
Be the exact opposite of you and make her not like you show she does it and not you.
You used the word my and she alot. This means you still feel not only attached, but in control of her.
u can NOT break her up without hurting her, JERK
thats why you dont have sex.....sigh. jerk.
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Ummmm ay advice on how to put a tampon in? I'm having a bit of trouble...?
first, sit on a toilet or squat. when you start to put it in, have the tip of it point (aim) towards your lower back. gently slide it in. your fingers should be on the gippers at the end by the string, so when your fingers touch your body, that is when you push the actual tampon in, out of the applicator. once you've done that, remove the applicator. also, relax and dont tighten your muscles or else it will make it very difficult to insert. once youre done and you can feel it inside you, that means you didn't put in in far enough. you can just take it out and try again....strangely, it takes practice. there should be instructions in the tampon box.Ummmm ay advice on how to put a tampon in? I'm having a bit of trouble...?
you need to push it towards the base of your spine. pushing it directly up hurt as you cervix tilts back slightly.Ummmm ay advice on how to put a tampon in? I'm having a bit of trouble...?
don't put the tampon in your nose or ears or mouth. it belongs in only one hole in your bod. i think you know where that is (:
1. Sit or stand in a comfortable position. Some women prefer to place one leg on the toilet seat or tub, while others prefer to squat down. After you find a position that is most comfortable for you, hold the tampon with the fingers that you write with. Hold the middle of the tampon, at the spot where the smaller, inner tube inserts into the larger, outer tube. Make sure the string is visible and pointing away from your body.
2. With your other hand, open the labia (the folds of skin around the vaginal opening) and position the tampon in the vaginal opening.
3. Gently push the tampon into the opening, aiming for the small of your back. Stop when your fingers touch your body and the applicator, or outer tube, is completely inside the vagina.
4. Once the applicator or outer tube is inside of you, use your index finger to push the inner tube (the tube where the removal string is connected) through the outer tube.
5. Once the inner tube is all the way in, use your thumb and middle finger to remove the applicator or outer tube. Make sure that the string hangs outside of the vaginal opening. Later, when you are ready to remove the tampon, hold the string and gently pull it downward until the entire tampon is out.
If the tampon is inserted correctly, you should not feel it. If you feel uncomfortable in any way, you may have inserted the tampon incorrectly or the tampon may not be placed far enough into the vagina. If this happens, just remove the tampon and start again with a new tampon. Remember that practice makes perfect. If you don't get it on the first try, your second try will most likely be successful. Instead of getting frustrated and giving up, relax and try again!
take the tampon out of its package
place your fingers on either sides of your vagina, push out.
put you other thumb and index finger no the gripper of the tampon
find your vagina and push the tampon in until your fingers are touching your crotch skin
then take the bottom cardboard part of the tampon and push, this part may hurt a tad
then pull the cardboard part out, leaving only a little string hanging out
you shouldn't be able to feel it, if you do you must try again
have an adult woman that you trust help you
Make sure the applicator is in far enough before you push the actual tampon out of it.skin
you need to push it towards the base of your spine. pushing it directly up hurt as you cervix tilts back slightly.Ummmm ay advice on how to put a tampon in? I'm having a bit of trouble...?
don't put the tampon in your nose or ears or mouth. it belongs in only one hole in your bod. i think you know where that is (:
1. Sit or stand in a comfortable position. Some women prefer to place one leg on the toilet seat or tub, while others prefer to squat down. After you find a position that is most comfortable for you, hold the tampon with the fingers that you write with. Hold the middle of the tampon, at the spot where the smaller, inner tube inserts into the larger, outer tube. Make sure the string is visible and pointing away from your body.
2. With your other hand, open the labia (the folds of skin around the vaginal opening) and position the tampon in the vaginal opening.
3. Gently push the tampon into the opening, aiming for the small of your back. Stop when your fingers touch your body and the applicator, or outer tube, is completely inside the vagina.
4. Once the applicator or outer tube is inside of you, use your index finger to push the inner tube (the tube where the removal string is connected) through the outer tube.
5. Once the inner tube is all the way in, use your thumb and middle finger to remove the applicator or outer tube. Make sure that the string hangs outside of the vaginal opening. Later, when you are ready to remove the tampon, hold the string and gently pull it downward until the entire tampon is out.
If the tampon is inserted correctly, you should not feel it. If you feel uncomfortable in any way, you may have inserted the tampon incorrectly or the tampon may not be placed far enough into the vagina. If this happens, just remove the tampon and start again with a new tampon. Remember that practice makes perfect. If you don't get it on the first try, your second try will most likely be successful. Instead of getting frustrated and giving up, relax and try again!
take the tampon out of its package
place your fingers on either sides of your vagina, push out.
put you other thumb and index finger no the gripper of the tampon
find your vagina and push the tampon in until your fingers are touching your crotch skin
then take the bottom cardboard part of the tampon and push, this part may hurt a tad
then pull the cardboard part out, leaving only a little string hanging out
you shouldn't be able to feel it, if you do you must try again
have an adult woman that you trust help you
Make sure the applicator is in far enough before you push the actual tampon out of it.
I need advice on how to deal with your best friend?
Well here's the deal. I like this guy. But I told my best friend that I didn't like him anymore. So she went and asked him out yesterday. And I've been depressed all day. I feel like I hate her, but there's no reason to. But I just do! I want us to be friends but she doesn't even deserve him! She doesn't even talk to him! I need help on how to deal with my depression and anger right now.I need advice on how to deal with your best friend?
You really need to be truthful with your best friend and tell her how you feel about this guy. Since she asked you if you liked him she definately must care about your feelings about him and doesn't want to hurt you. Tell her how you feel.I need advice on how to deal with your best friend?
don't think about how upset YOU are, but think about how happy your friend is. he must be a great guy for you to like him, and you should be happy for your friend. and plus, it's not like they'll be going out forever!
Your friend will probably not stay with the guy, she just wants to see what you find interesting in him. We all have different tastes so just wait it out .. all will be good.
you dont know my best friend lol.
You really need to be truthful with your best friend and tell her how you feel about this guy. Since she asked you if you liked him she definately must care about your feelings about him and doesn't want to hurt you. Tell her how you feel.I need advice on how to deal with your best friend?
don't think about how upset YOU are, but think about how happy your friend is. he must be a great guy for you to like him, and you should be happy for your friend. and plus, it's not like they'll be going out forever!
Your friend will probably not stay with the guy, she just wants to see what you find interesting in him. We all have different tastes so just wait it out .. all will be good.
you dont know my best friend lol.
I need advice on how to tell my bf....?
my bf is really inmature. everyone thinks that. i do to and i dont want to tell him and make him stop being himself. i dont want to hurt him either but i want him to grow up. just even if its a little bit. i really need help on how to tell him nicely!!!!! and im NOT going to break up wih him for this. :)I need advice on how to tell my bf....?
hmmmmm... dats pretty hard, basically just ask him nicely to be a lil mature for u, not a great advice but hope it works
hmmmmm... dats pretty hard, basically just ask him nicely to be a lil mature for u, not a great advice but hope it works
I Need Advice On How To Not Be SHY !!!!?
ok...I don't know why I'm so shy but I just am. I only have like a few friends at my school (6th grade) and I have two that ride my bus that are the ones who I talk to a lot but....other than those two I don't talk to a lot of other people like how I do with them(laughing, talking about anything, etc...)....so how can I get over being shy??/ and getting more frinds ??
PS.---some people may say small talk llike tell them your name, ask what school they used to go to,,,,etc well it's a little too late for that seeing as how it's the second month of school-----so what are some things that I could talk to them about ???I Need Advice On How To Not Be SHY !!!!?
I was always shy and what i'verealised is that the sooner you embrace who you are the happier you'll be.Now that I've finished school i've realised that this is not important cause the friends you have now are those who really like you for who you are.Some people even like the fact that you are shy they think that it is cute and sweet.
PS.---some people may say small talk llike tell them your name, ask what school they used to go to,,,,etc well it's a little too late for that seeing as how it's the second month of school-----so what are some things that I could talk to them about ???I Need Advice On How To Not Be SHY !!!!?
I was always shy and what i'verealised is that the sooner you embrace who you are the happier you'll be.Now that I've finished school i've realised that this is not important cause the friends you have now are those who really like you for who you are.Some people even like the fact that you are shy they think that it is cute and sweet.
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