I need advice on how to deal with my family regarding my interracial relationship.?

I have been with my man nearly 2 years now, living together for 1 year.I made the mistake of not telling my parents until about last June.My mom will not even acknowledge what I have told her, she has said that he will NEVER be allowed to her house %26amp; that I am going against everything she taught me %26amp; believes in,my father says he does not have a problem with it if it makes me happy, but that he has to support my mom, so he will not be able to be there for me. I have not had an open relationship with my parents in bout 10 years because they already did this once with a white man.Now his mother will have nothing to do with me because I have not been able to introduce him to my parents. I feel this is all out of my control, I clearly do not believe the way they believe.I clearly love this man, we have been taken care of each other this whole time.All on our own.%26amp; now we r ready 4 kids. How do I get across to my fam that this what I want %26amp; need, without having to lose contact with my fam?I need advice on how to deal with my family regarding my interracial relationship.?
if u want to lose your family go ahead full blast..but u may want to consider all the implications of your actions and the possible consequences for all involved (including any future kids). They will have no maternal grandparents...their paternal grandmother will be dissing u all the time and you will have lost the people who raised u.....it is a very tough call....u may try and ask your mom to see a counselor about her prejudice....


it is sad that we still have these kind of problems in the US...love is love....people need to respect that...i like chocolate myselfI need advice on how to deal with my family regarding my interracial relationship.?
Marry him before you have children! Your parents will be drawn to their grandchildren. It may take a few years, but hopefully all will work out well.
It is always very difficult to make everybody happy,but you are a grown up now and have to decide what is better for you,you just have to be certain that you want to be with this man for the right reason and not because you always heard that this was forbidden.It is hard do not have the parents accept your choices,but that is live .would you rather leave your man for racial issues?live your life ,be Happy and have your kids if is that what you want.
I am sorry you are going through this, It sounds like you love this man, i say go on with your relationship your parents will come around when they see that you are serious. My mom never liked my boyfriend, she kicked me out at 17. I am now married to the same guy. its been over 7 years. and my mom and I are fine.


hang in ther honey.
tell them that love is love. your parents should be telling you this while your growing up. not the other way around. is it a tradition in your family or something? this is too weird. your parents should not be reacting like this.





tell them you love them, but you feel this is right, and make them feel shallow by saying ';i care about the inside, not the outside, but why should you?';
Well this is a very difficult situation. Families %26amp; relationships tend to be very touchy subjects. The only advice that I can give you is to LOVE. Love yourself, your man, your parents, and his parents as well. I know that it is difficult and challenging to think that your mother would allow her prejuicies to drive a wedge between you two, but you still have to love her through it. It doesn't mean that you will have a relationship with her, and it doesn't mean that you may not. It is possible that she may turn around and grow to accept that you are grown and the decision that you make is yours not hers, but if she doesn't then you have to hang on to the words and love of your father that whatever makes you happy is yours to choose. As long as you and your man are able to maintain a healthy relationship with one another that's all that matters. If your parents are not willing to accept you and your relationship then maybe a compromise can be arranged were you can visit your parents %26amp; he can visit his parents. And if that is not an option then you have to make the collective choice to solely be each other's family now.
I say go for it, think about your self first and waht makes you happy
I'm actually currently in this situation also. I'm dating a black guy and my father and mother are really against that. my dad already told me if i even ';talk'; to a black guy hell never talk to me again, get me anything, or see me again. he said he would kick me out, which I'm a sr. this year so i need my parents right now....for graduation and every thing. so i dont know what to do. we have been dating for 8 months and my parents still dont know and it kills me. but i cant tell them b/c i will no longer be a part of the family. but i love him so much! sooo yea....i really dont know.