Does anyone have advice on how to pick up and move on..?

been divorced seven months and still sitting around wollaring in it.Does anyone have advice on how to pick up and move on..?
Well I know that there is no easy answer for everyone. My wife passed away 3 1/2 years ago from cancer and I was fortunate enough to have an old friend from school contact me. We had ridden the school bus together many years ago. She understood my situation, because her daughter had gone through a simular disease. We started talking and doing things together, seeing old friends, etc and established a wonderful relationship. She was truly a God send to me. She brought back the meaning of life to me. Without her, I would have been totally lost. Now, she is the most important aspect of my life. I know that I love this woman like I have never loved anyone, because she is so special. Because God brought us back together at the very time that I needed her most... I know that it was meant to be.





I know this is not the answer you were looking for, but many times we look so hard for answers that we ignore the things that we already have to grace our lives. Often times we are so overcome by grief, depression, and anxiety that we forget about the blessings that have been brought into our lives.





I am certain that you have this in your life too. Try to focus on what you have been blessed with and put the past behind you. Life is too short not to try to live everyday to it's fullest.





Yes, grieving is a process that one must go through, but one can get stuck in it and not move on. Try to pick yourself up and do things that you enjoy with the people you love and enjoy being around. No, it will not be the same as things were in the past, but since the past sucked so badly.. who would want that anyway? In fact, in time you will see that it is better than the life that you had before your divorce. LIfe will get a lot better, but you have to stand up and make it happen instead of laying there and wollering in it as you said you are doing.Does anyone have advice on how to pick up and move on..?
Just go.
I suggest that you spend some time (a full day) alone thinking about the whole marriage. The good times, the bad, the ugly, and everything else in between. Have a really good heartfelt cry where you can just let it all come out, snotty nose and all.





Then, it's time to take inventory. All the ';stuff'; you've accumulated that's reminding you of him needs to go. Goodwill, trash, whatever, just get it out of your environment. This way you can start with a clean slate both emotionally and physically (as is reasonably possible).





Next, assess what it is you want to do with yourself. If you were like most married people, your goals and dreams probably were designed to fit in with your husband and his. Go back to the drawing board, start from scratch, and make a completely new life plan for yourself.





Finally, I think it's about time you get back into the dating scene. Whether it's an online dating service or a friend that hooks you up, just try to get out there. There are plenty of divorced guys out there in your same position that you'd already have lots in common with. I know this isn't an easy time, but I truly believe it will get better. But you've got to be the catalyst to do so. Best wishes!
Everyone has there own time. When I divorced, I moped around. I did try to surround myself with family and friends as much as possible. Hit the gym, it works.
I would suggest as a starting point ....Dr. John Grey's (possibly Gray) Mars and Venus starting over.





do lots of chatting on yahoo %26amp; get lots of online friends. Join a couple online groups.Perhaps for those local to you meet 'em (a group)





try yahoo personals





good luck





... my wife and I both had previous heart breaking divorces- - - - takes time - - - %26amp; we did meet on yahoo personals, so take hope and encouragement : )
just go to clubs... what kind of guy u looking for?
I dated this guy once. I thought i was in love, and when he broke up with me I was so devastated that I was sure my life was over. I moped around for a looong time, but then I met someone really great.


No matter what people will tell you, it takes time to get over a break up and a divorce, but you will meet someone else and you will ask yourself how you could ever think that your ex was the one for you. In no time you will be so far gone in your life that you will thank the Lord every day that your ex is a part of your past.


Think of the good things you have in your life now. your freedom, your health, your future is in your hands. get out there and just have fun, don't look for someone else, just clear your head and re-discover yourself, and everything will get better, I promise,


Good Luck.
Look you need to stop worryin! AND MOVE ON!
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1) get off the Internet


2) if unemployed, get a job


3) find a hobby that involves other people.


4) don't become a man hater over this but don't just screw any clown


5) don't become the crazy cat lady





It's your life...nobody can live it for you.
Even if you have to ';make'; yourself do it, you have to get out of the house. Nobody is going to knock on your door, begging you to go out with them. Go out with friends, people from work, family, or alone even, but the point is to go out into the world, and you will meet somebody. Meeting, and start going out......that's the best way to ';move on';. Good Luck......you CAN do this!!
Hi.


I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. I've never been married, so I'm not the authority on this...I will say that surrounding yourself with friends and family are a good way to start the moving on process. Seven months isn't a long time, so I believe that it is natural for you to have your moments of sadness. You probably aren't ready to start seeing people again; however, you can try to get out there and be social again. Hope this helps.
no, sorry. im thinking about severing some break lines just to comfort myself. least then i'd know we both felt bad, even if it is only momentary.
Well I guess that's what you want to do.There is no reason for that behavior except it's feeling good to you for some reason.We only do the things that satisfy us in some sicko way so I guess you want to wallow in your past.Get your butt up and start the new journey.What about the new people you will meet? what about the new ways you can relate now because every relationship teaches us something new about our selves so even though some thing ended,some thing new is beginning.I think it's exciting to be single again.It's like living again but this time knowing what you know.You should happily kiss the past goodbye or you'll end up metaphorically like Lot's wife in the bible,when her family left Sodom and Gomorrah,the angel told them not to look back and she did.She was turned into stone ,but that just means that if you keep looking back at where you were your life will never move forward,thus like turning into stone.Don't be afraid of the new journeys,just remember all you learned along the way and you won't make the same choices again in different packing.Good luck.
ok grl u have a broken heart yeah. but nothing is going to change the past is the past what is done is done u have to move on make the future better u cant spend ur life sitting on the couch get out there live ur life the way u want it. there is more fish in the sea u just gotta put urself out there again to find the rite one
It sounds like you need a little kick in the butt to get you moving. Go join something, a church, a social club. Go to the soup kitchen and volunteer your time, go to the nursing home and read to the patients. DO SOMETHING. You just need to feel wanted and loved again and anything you do to help others will give you that feeling back. Good luck and God Bless.
To tell you the truth, I think I would be doing the same thing you are doing if that happened to me. You're probably wondering to yourself, What am I going to do now? Where did I go wrong? You probably thought you had the most greatest thing ever and now you feel nothing but empty and alone. You are so depressed and everything you watch on TV doesn't help either. All it does is remind you of him. So I am going to give you some advice that I don't think I could take because I myself am stubborn. But mostly when you break up with someone you love, all you can do is think about changing. The color of your hair, your close and even lose weight. There was a time when I went through that and when I changed a few things about myself I felt so much better. I am really sorry about your divorce. I have never been married and I want to so badly. And if I ever lost him, I would be so lost too. But just know this: Everything is going to be alright!!! I promise.....
You need to get up and move on you can't live in the past,because the future will never come if you do..
the best thing to do is forget about it. Think of all positives about why your not together. Think of whats bad about them and how you could have someone not like that. Also go out with friends and met new people it will get your mind off them and since you proboly havent felt in love in along time if you met someone then you will be happy you have the feeling back and you will just forget about them.